By Cora Petersen, ex-gymnast and health enthusiast
If I were to ask you how you felt about the relationships in your life, how long would it take you to mention the relationship you have with yourself?
For most of us, our relationships with ourselves probably never even cross our minds and when they do, the picture is probably not quite as pretty as we would like to admit. For me, like many others, I forgot to care for myself, mentally and physically. I became obsessed with who I should be, how I should act and what my life should look like. Rather than falling in love with myself and the processes, I started to hate the person I was and all I wanted to do was changing everything about myself.
But the more I tried to become ‘perfect’, the more I fell out of love with myself. That is until I realized that I couldn’t change myself into someone who was good enough. I was good enough as I was, and any changes I made had to come from love rather than from hate.
So here are some of my tips on learning to love yourself once again.
Loving your body is something that I find is hard for many people, especially women to grasp. Everywhere we look there are tones of products designed to make you look better. Any insecurity we could possibly have, the beauty industry has a magic fix for it and if we weren’t insecure before, they will make sure we are about something soon enough. Or to put it simply, it is nearly impossible to fall in love with we because there is always something else to be fixed.
So how did I learn to love my body and being healthy without it becoming an obsession about perfection?
Phytoceramides: provides beauty from within
Food is not the enemy
For a long time, I thought food was the enemy and that if I wanted to have a good figure and be healthy, I could never have something unhealthy ever again. This led me to restricting which made me so obsessed I even started to restrict calories. It was only after I learned that we need food to be healthy that I started to understand the idea of balance.
It okay to have things that are unhealthy sometimes when you fill the rest of your diet with healthy food too. And there is no need to restrict calories. Start listening to your body and eat when you are hungry and stop eating when you are full. This way you will be satisfied and also more likely to reach your fitness goals.
Superfoods to enrich your diet
Workout to be healthy no skinny
When it comes to working out the mentality is key. Do it because you want to feel healthy, have a clearer mind, and to take care of your body. Not because you want to be skinny.
Support your workout in the right way
Healthy is not one size fits all
I used to think that if I was healthy, I would have a 23-inch waist and be as thin as the models I see on cat walks. But the reality is that is not my body type. And that is totally okay. All bodies are different just like us, meaning that healthy is different for each and everyone of us. For some getting healthy will look like losing weight while for others it means gaining weight and for yet others it doesn’t mean changing weight only changing their diet up. The sooner that we realize beauty is not determined by size but rather by health, happiness and confidence the sooner we will all learn to love what our mommas gave us no matter what that looks like for us!
Things take time
It is totally great to have goals related to health and fitness. What ever makes us feel like our best most vibrant selves is what we should shoot for. However, there is no reason to get discouraged. Sometimes we will achieve things faster than we mean to and other times it will take longer. All of that is fine, just keep loving the process and yourself!
These are just a few of the mindset changes I made that led me to being physically healthier and more content. I hope that applying these changes to your daily life and thinking with help you find the happiness within yourself that you deserve!
The other big thing to remember is that your mentality is key to falling in love with yourself. Even if you are physically healthy if you are not mentally healthy then it really won’t matter. You have to take care of yourself, and yes, that includes your mental wellbeing too!
It's okay to take a day off
Sometimes to be healthy we just have to take a day where we skip the gym, lounge around and eat cookies while watching Netflix. That is totally fine, just remember that like everything there is a balance so don’t do this every day.
Setting goals for yourself is a great way to keep yourself passionate about life. These goals can be literally anything and just by having them will give you a sense of purpose that will make you so driven! So, make those goals and crush them, you got this!
Talk it out
It is so easy to overthink about things. So, if you find yourself overthinking and getting overly stressed or down on yourself, get it off your chest. If you want to talk to a good friend or a family member over coffee do that! Or if you prefer to go to the park on a sunny Sunday morning and journal your heart away do that! Learning to let yourself feel and understanding those feelings was one of the most key things for me learning to take care of myself. You are valid and so are the things you are going through, always remember that!
It often seems that the hardest task in life is loving ourselves; especially in a world that is always profiting from other insecurities. However, it is possible to have a healthy relationship with yourself and in fact it changes everything. I hope that these tips put you all one step closer to loving who you are unconditionally. And never stop loving who you are. Self-love is a process that never ends but is always 100% worth it!